The 5 Most Important Questions you Can Ever Ask Yourself

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What are my Passions?

Constantly following your passion allows you to experience personal joy. The purpose of life in my mind is to simply be happy; following your passions is the smoothest route to that level of personal satisfaction. By knowing what our true passion is we can derive purpose for our lives which in turn gives what we are doing value. Purpose and value are inexplicably linked, if what you are doing is your passion it is inherently valuable to you. Uncompromisingly pursuing something is incredibly brave, it is why it must be something you are passionate about. It will allow you to become ignorant of the questioning, criticism or dissenting voices as you spend your time doing it. Not enough people are brave enough to inexorably chase their passions.

What are my Goals?

By establishing goals your focus becomes distinctly fixed on your currently reality and allows you to become cognisant of your inadequacies. Instead of pursuing a multitude of different avenues we become focused on achieving the things we have set our minds to. By creating goals we effectively limit our options, forgoing variety in order to be specifically and single-mindedly focused on the outcomes we have defined.

Am I Happy?

  • Are you the owner of your own house?
  • Are you married?
  • Do you have any kids?
  • Do you have a good job?
  • Are you rich?
  • Are you well educated?
  • Are you powerful?
  • Do you holiday frequently?
  • Do people respect you?
  • Do a lot of people care about you?

The bigger the better, the more we have the greater admiration for what we have achieved. Life is distilled down to its constituent parts which distort the only thing that matters. What people see is the tiniest sliver of the idiosyncrasies which characterise our unique experiences through the materialistic elements of our lives. To assume a massive tick next to all of the above questions solves all misses the point. You can have every single one of them while remaining desperately unhappy while equally you can have none of the above and be perfect content and happy.

The ingredients then are simple. Passion and purpose are the most fulfilling routes to happiness and joy. If you pursue the things you care about most, which simultaneously affirm a sense of achievement, advancement, or significance, you have all the elements which enable success. Spending your most precious resource, time, doing the things you love, perhaps with the people you care about most, means you can’t lose.

Being happy is life’s biggest risk. It takes tremendous courage and bravery to be exactly who you want to be without compromises. It’s incredibly easy to reign in our own desires in order to placate others and fit in but to do so would be to betray your one opportunity at life and success.

So be bold, be brave and be happy.

What Would I Regret?

Doing nothing can only ever result in regret. It can never lead to learning or creating anything of value and therefore regret is debilitating and paralysing. Failure is an essential part of iterative progress. It informs cumulative advancement and helps achieve significant and unprecedented development. Regret is symptomatic of being too scared to even try.

Success and failure are inexplicably linked. Success can be arrived at after failure but regret never leads to the creation of anything or even the potential for success. Successful failure can be measured in actions and what you have learned whereas failure without action leaves the possibility of regret. The fear of failure can be paralysing. Don’t let it be. You should be afraid of failing, but you should be even more afraid of failing to try.

I can openly confess I’m afraid to fail, but I am for more afraid that I will fail to accomplish anything of significance. Failure is not a sign that your ideas are doomed but as a necessary step toward success. Failure is about learning, regret is about never knowing.

Bravery is accepting failure as an opportunity. Regret is lacking the courage to act.

What do I not Know?

And knowledge is the key that releases your own potential. By accepting your own inadequcies you can understand the areas you must improve in order to flourish. It’s no use ignorantly marching on in the hope that you trip over the things you must learn. You must actively pursue them.

We are told to cease the day but how many people do? How many people would be completely honest with themselves and admit they create little of value? What have you done in the last week, month or even year? I know I didn’t for the longest time, I couldn’t. I was scared of the facts.

Facing up to it was painful, it hurt more than anything I’ve ever been endured and it was self-inflicted. Like a gunshot to my own ego, I frantically tried to dispel the myths I had constructed to protect myself from my own inadequacies, and there were plenty. I was wasting my one wild and precious life. I realised I lacked passion, direction and commitment. Everything in life had been easy because it just happened. I hadn’t impacted or controlled anything I could have. I never pursued the things that truly interested and inspired me.

Life’s short, you can either endure it or experience it.

It all comes down to whether you can be honest enough to see what’s right in front of you.

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