What is the Point in Being Alive?
Personal joy and happiness, it’s as simple as that.
Without both, or either, what is the point in being alive? Personally, it is my belief that the only purpose of life is personal happiness. Everything else converges into nothingness. If you’re not happy you’re not living, your existing in a purgatory between life and death enduring an existence you don’t enjoy instead of experiencing the richest fruits of being alive.
We get sold the lie that life is about love, it’s about relationships, having a career, chasing experiences, but it’s not.
It can be but it depends entirely on what you find at the end of your journey of discovery on what truly makes you happy.
Regardless of whether you procreate and leave a legacy which lives on beyond your death, if you weren’t happy when you were living what’s the point? Sure, you contribute to the continuation of humanity, but you’re dead and have no control over the path those you left behind might take.
People get fixated and hung up on small details in life. We chase money in the belief that having more will nourish us, we delay decisions based on our personal and professional relationships in the belief that things will improve with time, we stand by and do nothing instead of enjoying the one chance you are afforded in your one precious life.
Why do we delay things? Why do we assume gratification from purchases will improve our happiness? Why do we accept our current reality as is fixed instead of pursuing the things we truly love?
It is my belief we do the above because we do not trust ourselves. We struggle with the existential question of why we are alive. It is my basic observation that those with a defined purpose are the happiest among us. Those who dedicate their life to something, anything, become so entrenched in their endeavours that their happiness comes by merely working on the thing they love more than anything in the world. That could mean being a parent, creating a company, travelling the world.
Happiness then is about finding purpose. It’s about finding the things that we love to do and make us happiest and actually doing them. Too often we see what everybody else has and restrict our hopes for life to what is expected of us. Instead of living the life we have chosen we live the life we are expected to lead by others.
Our expectations for life recede and we reduce our hopes and dreams according to the historical precedent of those who have lived before us. We pursue marriage, a 3 bedroom home and 2.4 children. What we fail to realise is that there is no mould for happiness. Just because everybody in history has cultivated a specific type of life as the one that will bring most personal happiness and satisfaction does not mean it is true. The only issue with that is if you don’t do what everyone else does people start to think we are weird and ask questions.
To be happy we must be relentless. We must ignore the dissenting voices and opinions that question us even in our times of doubt. If nobody is questioning you, you’re not taking enough risks. Life’s a gamble, we can either accept the limitations imposed on us, accept the situation we have inherited at birth, or we can unmercifully mould our life to become the one we wish to live.
I know because I done the so for years. I realised the hopes and expectations of everyone except myself. I never so much as marched down a path but was ushered down it towards the life the people who loves me most thought I wanted. Instead of pausing to find myself I completed my assumed duty due to the time I had invested in creating the life I thought I wanted. Let me be clear, nothing in life is more certain than unhappiness if you don’t walk life on the path you have chosen.
We listen to others’ advice instead of our hearts. We overthink things and paralyse ourselves against action.
Everybody wants to be remembered and do something that matters. The intrinsic simplicity of humanity is our shared desire to all be loved for who we are. We seek to be accepted; even those who seek to conform least.
I believe that all that matters is that you are happy. Until you learn to love yourself how can you expect anyone else to? Until you know what makes you happy how can anyone else assist?
Life’s an expedition. There are peaks and troughs we must navigate. Knowing what makes you happy makes the troughs more bearable and the assents quicker. Staying on top of the world is far easier when you truly understand the reasons for your happiness.
And finding what you truly love, what makes you unquestionable happy, is our single purpose in life.
Here’s What Makes me Happy
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